Ignite Your Passion

Ignite Your Passion

In a recent coaching session a client shared with me her passion, it was something that she’d love to be doing. Yet she wasn’t taking the steps to pursue that passion. She said some day she would when she had the time. I challenged her. What if wasn’t because of time what if it was because of something else? That question took us to many interesting places but through it all she came to realize that it wasn’t a time issue at all. The real reason she hadn’t begun pursuing her passion was because she was afraid. She told me she had a lot to be afraid of. Could she earn a living at it? What would people say if she was doing that? What if she wasn’t any good…
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Digging Deeper Into I’m Sorry

During a recent conversation with my wife, Mara, I began to notice that it getting tense. As we continued talking I had a sense that for some reason she was angry with me. We’ve been married for twenty-five years so I’ve gotten pretty good at knowing when something is not right. The tension confused me because I had done a whole slew of things that morning to be helpful; made us breakfast, cleaned up the kitchen, watered the plants, fed the dogs, and offered to drive the four hour trip to Denver we were taking later that day. I felt like I had been quit helpful and I didn’t know what was up. I asked her, “is something the matter?” “I didn't feel well this morning” she said. "I'm sorry”…
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How Are You Being Treated?

Do you get treated the way you want to be treated? You can. If you’re willing to teach people how to treat you. Do you realize that you are constantly letting people know how you want to be treated? When we speak up when something does not feel good to us we are teaching people how to treat us. When we don't speak up when something does not feel good we are teaching people how to treat us. Dr. Maxine Carr, my co-facilitator, in a recent P3orlando.com seminar shared this story with one of our participants who was struggling to find his voice. Maxine had recently remodeled her home. She had put a lot of work and money into the project and was quite proud of the results. She invited…
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Stop Eating Marshmallows

In the 1960’s Michael Mischel, a research psychologist from Stanford University gave some 4- year-old children a marshmallow to eat. He then told them, that if they waited till he returned from an errand to eat the marshmallow they could have two marshmallows. Some of the children ate their marshmallow as soon as the researcher left the room. Other children waited a few minutes before eating their marshmallow. And about one-third of the children decided to wait, to delay gratification, control impulse, for a bigger reward. And here’s where the story gets interesting. Fast forward 15 years and the differences we see between the ones that waited to eat their marshmallow and the ones that didn’t wait are dramatic. The hold outs, the ones that delayed their immediate desires, were…
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Men Are Pigs and Other Fables

Men are pigs. That was Sally’s response to my third of five rapid-fire questions I asked her during an exercise that I use in our P3Orlando.com. seminar. The exercise explores how our beliefs and our results are tied together. Her response brought chuckles of laughter throughout the room. But beneath the laughter was Sally's truth. She had had way too many bad experiences with men in her life and as far as she was concerned - they were pigs. And that is where Sally’s problem lied. See, one of the goals Sally set for herself and the major reason she was taking the seminar was to have a successful relationship with a man and to discover the things that were keeping her from having that. If Sally truly wants a…
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